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Just love, already

Awhile back, I learned the difference between coming from a place of love, and coming from... well, something other than love. What do I mean by that?

There are lots of 'places' to come from, or act from... take judgment, or anger, or envy, or 'I know more than you know.' 

Did you know you can say the exact same words, but come from different places when you say those words -- and the difference in where you're coming from can be the difference in how your words are heard and received?

Were you ever taught this??? I've had lots of communication training over the years... and truly, I somehow never really understood this until recently!

Have I not been listening? (That's entirely possible.)  Seriously, though - I don't think this distinction is really taught very often!

Here's an example:  You are annoyed with visitors at your local beach because they are littering. This beach is a place you love and frequent. You're upset that others litter.  You're tired of it and you're judgmental of them when you tell them 'Hey, use the garbage can!'

Another way of approaching the same situation would be to take a few deep breaths, discard any judgment or other thoughts that get in the way of you feeling connected to the visitors and genuinely sharing with them your request, which is that they use the garbage can for their waste.  Once you've gotten rid of any negativity (anger, judgment, arrogance), you can approach the visitors and engage them in a conversation that's about them: Where they're from, what they are enjoying about the beach... making a connection with them and the experience they're having. Then you can share how much you love this beach,  and you can ask them, "Hey, would you please use the garbage can for your waste? Here's one right here."

Coming from appreciation, love, and connection makes all the difference. Try it.

The Adventure of Life

"May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. May your rivers flow without end, meandering through pastoral valleys tinkling with bells, past temples and castles and poets-towers into the dark primeval forest where tigers belch and monkeys howl, through miasmal and mysterious swamps and down into a desert of red rock, blue mesas, domes and pinnacles and grottos of endless stone, and down again into a deep vast ancient unknown chasm where bars of sunlight blaze on profiled cliffs, where deer walk across the white sand beaches, where storms come and go as lightning clangs upon the high crags, where something strange and more beautiful and more full of wonder than your deepest dreams waits for you...beyond that next turning of the canyon walls."                                                                    - Edward Abbey

Life is an amazing journey - there are challenges, fears, unknowns, and rewards all along the way. The real challenge is to experience it all and get as much out of it all as possible.

Come on an adventure with us and you'll be forever changed - you'll come home a bigger person who can use what you've learned about yourself on our adventure to shift how you see and act in other areas of your life.

REAL Women Enterprises works with Fitness Beyond The Box to provide Coaching Adventures that'll empower you.

Being Empowered

What does it mean to be empowered?

When you're empowered, you feel strong and alive, vibrant, and clear. You're energetic.  When you make choices that empower you, you feel present; and you know that you are exactly where you need to be. People who are empowered stand up for themselves, and invite others to do the same.  People who are empowered are natural leaders who inspire those around them.

Ask yourself: 'Does this choice empower me or disempower me?' each time you make choices and you'll start being able to access your power more often and more easily.

When you are empowered, you'll be able to boldly move forward, rather than hold back.